If you are like me, you’ve probably set goals, reached them, and then quit them.
OVER and OVER.
I do it often. Like this blog. I’m going to be consistent. And I’m really good for a month. Then 3 months later, I haven’t written a post. Oye.
I’ve got good reasons. I’ve got motivation. I’ve got good intentions. We all do. And yet, there is this cycle of set, achieve, break-down….
I’m with you people.
I came up with 7 tips that I have found that have helped me start to break this pattern that I want to share with you so that you can have your most successful, best year yet in 2017.
- Stop making excuses and apologizing. One of my favorite memories from high school comes from public speaking. We were in the middle of giving speeches when one of my classmates accidentally whacked the stand with his hand gesture. Immediately, he looked at the stand and said, “I’m sorry!” and continued on with his speech. At the end of his speech the teacher asked him why he apologized to the stand. He looked at her quizzically. She explained that he had apologized to the stand, instead of moving on with his speech. We all laughed and I still find it a funny story. BUT SERIOUSLY. We do it all. the. time. We apologize when it’s not necessary and we make excuses. Not legitimate excuses. Just excuses. I’m too tired. Too busy. Too ______? Or my personal favorite…. “I couldn’t help it.” When I stopped apologizing for nothing, stopped making excuses, and started owning everything that came out of my mouth and head, man, did I start to achieve.
- Stop trying to fix others. Work on YOU. This one is HARD. Why? Because it’s uncomfortable. Like running faster or lifting heavier weights. When you have to own YOUR actions… it’s open. honest. vulnerable. Let’s be real, no one want’s to admit they have faults to fix. But when we work on ourselves (because we have no control over others, just our reactions), we see great progress. When I have wanted to fix a relationship, I fixed me first. If I want to change my clients attitudes towards me, I fix my attitude towards myself first. It starts with ME. How will you work on you this year?
- Set REALISTIC goals. Don’t set yourself up for failure by setting a goal that isn’t achievable. I want to win the lottery, but I’m not going to play. It sounds funny, but c’mon, we do it all the time. I want to be __ size. I want to weigh __ but I want to be able to lift __ weight when I bench press. I want to swim every morning at 5 am but I want to get more sleep. Maybe this is the year you are headed on college visits and sports trips and not the year that you can train for a half marathon. THAT’S OKAY! Adjust your goals, maybe you can be really good at 5k races this year. Or maybe your goal needs to be just working out 5 times a week for 45 minutes. THAT’S OKAY. If you pick something realistic, you are more likely to stick with it and achieve your goal.
- … and list the “joys and sucks” of your goals. Which brings me to honesty in goal setting. When we set goals, there will be joys in our goals and there will be “sucks” (for lack of a better term). If you want to lose weight to be healthier, joys are losing some weight, clothes fitting better, feeling better… and sucks are … well, it requires hard work. not eating that extra dessert. working out. saying no. dedication. Those are SUPER hard. Goals often have “yays” and “nays” that come with them. Be real about these before you decide on that goal. This will help you determine if you are even willing to try for this goal. Sometimes we have goals that we want before we realize what it is going to take.
- Find someone to hold you accountable (someone who will tell you the truth!) Enough said. But let me caution you… a partner or family member may not be the best idea. (Ladies… who really wants your husband to say, “Man, babe, those pants are getting a littttttle tight in the tushy.”) For me, it means I have a professional to help me with my goals and my training buddies to keep my workouts honest. Family tends to make things sticky or offensive when it comes to truth. Find someone who can give you an honest kick in the pants and ask them to be your buddy.
- Write them down. Research tells us that there is power in writing things down. Write down your goals. Post them where you can see them. Read them often. Adjust if needed. Make them pretty. Make them crafty. Have them pop up on your phone. Just write them down. Own them. Make them a piece of the history of you.
- Invest in yourself. I think this one is so important because I neglected it for so long. If you don’t know how to do something, pay someone to help you! Are you struggling with lifting, hire a trainer for a few sessions. Don’t know how to eat healthy? Get nutritional guidance. Struggling with relationships? Go to counseling. Can’t cook? Take a few lessons! It doesn’t have to be a crazy amount. But if it’s important to you, learn to do it CORRECTLY. Yes, there is joy in struggle and it definitely builds character. But what doesn’t work is being completely frustrated, or injuring yourself, or burning down your house. Be willing to invest in your goals and interests. It’s an important part of becoming the best version of you.
I am confident that these tips will help you succeed in 2017. Do you have any other tips that you find helpful? I would love to hear them! Sharing makes us stronger
Blessings for an excellent, strong, and beautiful 2017.